Why Marler's wife took him to task over MotherGate
REACTION: Joe Marler has reiterated an apology to Jake Heenan, his Harlequins teammates and his club after he was suspended last week for comments made towards the Bristol forward.
Quins and England prop Marler was hit with an RFU charge for conduct prejudicial to the game, making an offensive remark about Heenan’s ill mother during a Premiership game on December 27.
Marler received a two-week ban, with a further four weeks suspended, in his latest brush with the rugby authorities.
In 2016, he was handed a two-week suspension and fined £20,000 for calling Wales prop Samson Lee “gypsy boy”, and two years ago he received a 10-week ban for grabbing Wales lock Alun Wyn Jones’ genitals during a Six Nations game.
A disciplinary panel took Marler’s chequered history into account, but also noted that he had apologised to Heenan.
“I’m really sorry to Jake Heenan and his family, the guy I insulted or tried to insult, and also to my teammates and to the club because they must really now be at a point where they are like, ‘Here we go again’,” said Marler on his personal podcast, The Joe Marler Show.
“At what point do you go, ‘Yeah, you can say sorry, mate, but just stop f***ing doing it?’ I guess this is the point, is it? I have been back and forth about the whole situation of, ‘Oh, it goes on all the time; you should hear some of the stuff’. All this lot. ‘What’s the big thing, and would there be a hoo-ha if his mum wasn’t in hospital?’ Probably not.
“But, actually, we always have a choice, don’t we? We have a choice whether you can actually use this for good, regardless of what the RFU have done in terms of banning or setting an example.
“It’s about what can I do to make this useful and good for me moving forward. And I guess it is a realisation that I haven’t got long actually being able to play the game left, so I want to use whatever time I have left at the club to actually embrace it and play the game.”
Marler said he had “absolutely no idea” that Heenan’s mother was in the hospital and the prop revealed that his own wife took him to task over the whole episode.
“She turned round to me after and she was like: ‘You’re an idiot, aren’t you? You’re just a moron’,” Marler added.
“I went: ‘What do you mean? I thought you are meant to defend me’.
“And she went: ‘Why am I defending you? That’s not even a funny attempt. Why don’t you just stop doing it?
“Or, if you feel the need to do it, just don’t bring family members into it.
“You never know what is going on in people’s lives and just because it doesn’t affect you on the pitch doesn’t mean it’s not going to affect other people’.”